5 Steps to Greater Resilience: Recovering from Election Day

6_img1Yesterday was a difficult and emotional day for many Americans.  Regardless of whether you got your way or not, the anger and frustration that has marked this very, very long campaign continued.  Added to it was a fair degree of shock and disbelief.

I admit, I woke up yesterday more depressed than I’ve ever been.  But one thing I have always prided myself on is my resilience.  I feel a lot better today.  A lot more hopeful, a lot more optimistic, back in balance.  How does that happen?

I believe that resilience – that capacity to bounce back – is about the ability to put things in perspective, the sooner the better.  Here are some steps that will help:

  1. Step back. See the situation as an observer instead of a participant.  What do you notice about your own behavior and that of others?   What is it that you like and dislike about it?
  2. Take the high road. Force yourself, if necessary, to behave in accordance with the person you most admire – or you when you are your very best self.  How would that person respond to the situation?
  3. Look at the big picture. Ask yourself how the situation will impact you in the long run.  How will you feel about it three weeks from now, three months from now, three years from now?  If you have trouble with this, try to remember something that troubled you three years ago.
  4. Find the lesson you need to learn. I believe that “if you’re paying attention, each and every experience you have can contribute to who you become as a person.” * What will this experience contribute to your growth and development?
  5. See the humor in the situation. There is always humor – look at how much fun the late night pundits had over the past 18 months. Find something that amuses you, makes you smile or laugh out loud.  Humor is the best medicine.

When you step back, take the high road, see the big picture, you realize there are lessons to be learned and humor to find in almost any situation, no matter how serious.

Practicing resilience is a great preparation for dealing with all the challenges that life presents to you along the way.  We all have them; some of us just bounce back faster than others.  Like anything else, the more you practice it, the easier it gets and the better you get.

“Remember that when you improve, everything around you improves.”  * Your attitude improves, your results improve, your relationships improve.

*  These are quotes from my book, Becoming Deliberate:  Changing the Game of Leadership from the Inside Out.  Do you have your copy yet?  If not, click here to take advantage of free gifts when you purchase.  And, by the way, it makes a great gift too for your favorite leader, aspiring leader or anyone just looking to improve their life.

5 Steps to Turn Your Thoughts & Ideas Into Action


Not every thought or idea you have is worthy of implementing.

You think thousands of thoughts every day, and many of them are the same thoughts over and over again.  And then sometimes, you have what we think is a brilliant idea and maybe you dream about acting on it.  Or, maybe you do act on it and later, you regret having done so.

What if you had a simple system for evaluating your ideas or thoughts to determine whether they are worth pursuing?

I developed The Simple 5-Step Processä to help myself with this and I found it works well, despite it’s simplicity—or maybe because of it.  Then I shared it with others and they found it helpful too.

It works best when you schedule some quiet time to think and reflect and when you do more thinking and re-thinking in between each of the steps.  That part may seem obvious, but I actually had to figure that out, so I decided to be explicit about it.

Step One:  Write it Down.  There are at least three great benefits to this step. Writing

  • helps clarify your thinking
  • allows you to circle back later to see whether or not your thinking has changed
  • releases clutter in your mind

Step Two:  Share it.  Sharing your thought with someone else enables even more clarity; so does hearing how it sounds outside your own head.  And, if the other person asks questions to better understand your thought, you will develop your thought even further.

Step Three:  Test it.  Think of this step as “trying on” the thought, acting as if the thought were true or already in place, and seeing how that feels.  As an example, when you think about where you want to go on vacation next, imagine yourself in that place and decide whether you feel happy there, enjoy the environment, and are excited about what you can do there—or not.

Step Four:  Get feedback.  By sharing and testing your idea—and being open to the reactions of others or your own reaction, you can use this feedback to strengthen or improve on your thought.  The trick here is to be open rather than defensive, so that you can make it better.

Step Five:  Implement.  Once you’ve written it, shared it, tested it and used the feedback, your new and improved thought is ready for action.  If you have been thoughtful about the process, you will actually be more likely to get the outcome or result you really wanted.

This process can be used very effectively for solving problems, for evaluating opportunities, or for creating important changes in your life.   In any case, being more thoughtful and deliberate will lead to better decisions.

This article is based on a Chapter in my book, Becoming Deliberate:  Changing the Game of Leadership from the Inside Out.  If you want to elevate your leadership thinking, I encourage you to read this book.

Whether or not you do read my book, I’d love to hear your thoughts about the simple 5-step process.  Share an example of how you’ve used it.  One of my readers used it to help prepare a difficult conversation with a service provider that wasn’t keeping his promise—and she was so pleased with the result!

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