Life Lessons from The Big Redhead

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Hard work, discipline and overcoming adversity were the main themes when I recently attended Seton Hall University’s Executive Suite Series, featuring the legendary Bill Walton.

As part of the renowned UCLA Basketball program that won seven straight national titles (a record most believe will never be broken), and NBA Finals MVP, regular season MVP and recipient of the Sixth Man Award, Walton had plenty of stories to share.  These included the incredible highs and devastating lows of a stellar career marred by serious injury.

The most compelling message I heard from Bill Walton was the importance of preparing for the inevitable adversity that’s on its way.  Because you never know how the game of life is going to play out.  Surviving 37 orthopedic surgeries in order to keep his dream alive, he learned that motivation must come from within and that developing critical life skills enable you to work around challenges in order to get through them.  His “Big 4” include balance, quickness, creative imagination and empathy.

Here are some other great quotes and lessons from that day:

  1. “Ask someone who is on their way back.” No doubt, they have a plan, or a formula, that led to success—and that you can benefit from.  Bill includes his parents and John Wooden, a true force of nature, as his most valuable mentors.  And, his first coach, who was a volunteer coach for 59 years—that is servant leadership!
  1. The importance of culture in creating success, recognizing that the strength of any team depends on the strength of each individual. John Wooden wanted his players to excel as students, as athletes and to prepare them to meet life. He taught relentlessly about the 15 elements that comprise his Leadership Pyramid. (Walton claims he was Wooden’s biggest nightmare, driving him to an early grave at 99.)
  1. “A culture of yes is built on a foundation of no.” Learn to ask the right questions to get the answers you want.  True leaders absorb, develop, then pass on the skills, knowledge and discipline to the next generation of leaders.  And when “the leader can say no and the team buys in, anything is possible.”  The best leaders are like fork lifts:  they pick someone up and put them in a higher place.
  1. Basketball is not a game of size and strength. Rather, it’s about training the mind and subjugating the ego. “Success is never present without sacrifice and discipline.”  And learning to put failure in its proper perspective is critical. Even the terms in used in the game provide larger lessons:  transition, cross over, rebound, fast break, momentum.
  1. Big challenges can lead to big accomplishments. Walton described “my biggest accomplishment and your biggest nightmare” – learning to speak at the age of 28 after a lifelong stutter.
  1. Finally, “it’s what you learn after you know it all that matters most.” This is what John Wooden wrote to him when he graduated from UCLA.  What a great message to carry through life!

P.S.  He also recommended these four books that he recently read:

Shoe Dog, by Phil Knight  http://amzn.to/2ewOWqO

Believer, by David Axelrod http://amzn.to/2eAfQil

Dark Money, by Jane Mayer http://amzn.to/2exV7fJ

Bill Graham Presents by Robert Greenfield http://amzn.to/2edix9O

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Are You in a Rut?

stuckThree [early] mornings a week, I travel to the fitness center to swim.  I park in the same place, use the same locker, the same lane to do my laps, the same stall to take my shower.  Today, someone was using “my locker!” I really had to laugh, thinking to myself what a creature of habit I’ve become – at least at the fitness center.

I was grateful to that other woman for forcing me to mix it up.  I consider myself somewhat spontaneous, and yet, as I swam my laps, I started to think of the number of things I always do in the same order or in the same way: same spot in Yoga class, same energy drink in the morning, same “go-to” restaurants – so many other things that are always the same.

So, I vowed to myself to look for opportunities today to mix it up a little more – variety is the spice of life, right?

Think of the big and small ways you operate on auto-pilot.  Certainly, it’s important to have systems and routines that make your life easier, so you don’t have to think hard about everything you do throughout the day.  But when is it a good idea to change things out?  When is the right time?

Where in your life are you in a rut right now?  Have you been thinking of making a change – personally or professionally – and held off because of fear or doubt or because it might be too hard to go through the process? What habits do you have in place that are not serving you?

Sometimes, even a small change can help you feel brand new.  A new pair of shoes, a change of scenery, a conversation with someone you don’t know well.  Changing your perspective by taking a different route or looking at something from a whole new angle can provide a boost of energy.

Most people wait until the New Year or a significant birthday to make changes.  But let’s face it, many of those changes don’t last.  The reality is that any time is a good time – if you’re ready.  And sometimes, you need a little kick in the butt to force the change.

My day today started off with a little kick in the butt.  And I’m so glad it did!

If there are changes in your life that you need to make, and you want some help to do that, let’s talk!  Right now, you can click here to schedule a free 30- minute strategy session with me. I look forward to providing you a little kick in the butt!

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A Day with Jack

withjackAmong my core values is personal growth, learning and development to effect continuous improvement – for myself and for my clients.

Recently, I attended One Day to Greatness Live with Jack Canfield.  Over the course of many years, Jack has been an important teacher and mentor of mine. His book, The Success Principles, is on my list of Top 10 Favorite Books. I’ve read it multiple times and use it as frequent reference tool.

Even though the material is familiar to me, I was able to derive huge benefit from the experience.  Here are some of the reasons:

  1. Powerful content, such as Jack’s, provides valuable lessons over and over again. Since you are in a different place than you were “last time,” the learning derived is also different.  I recognized how dramatically my perspective in certain areas has changed over the years.
  2. As a speaker, coach and trainer, I find great value in watching how the masters – like Jack – deliver the message. In particular, he uses humor, stories and experiential learning to ensure the best possible outcome for his audience.  I aspire to provide this kind of experience and value for my own audiences!
  3. It is always great to spend a day with like-minded people. The energy in the room was positive and supportive; people were curious about how others are applying these powerful principles to create success for themselves and for clients.  I met some awesome people!
  4. Jack is extremely accessible. He greets participants, takes pictures, gives hugs and always demonstrates a kind, gentle approach to helping people solve their challenges.  I especially appreciated the opportunity to give him a copy of my book, Becoming Deliberate:  Changing the Game of Leadership from the Inside Out, and thank him for providing the initial inspiration to write it. (When I attended his Breakthrough to Success Program, writing a book was the breakthrough goal I set for myself!)
  5. The opportunity to spend a day working on me and my business, my vision and goals for the future, was a gift. I was reminded how much one can accomplish in a single day of focused activity and learning.  I came away with more clarity and more determination to achieve the next level of performance in my own life, plus more ways to help support my clients’ needs.

Finally, it gave me a chance to gratefully remember and revisit some of the special people I have met through my association with Jack.  And I took the opportunity to reach out and remind them that they are special to me.

When was the last time you gave yourself a day like that? I would love to hear about it!

And, if you are interested in creating such a day for your team or organization, click here to schedule a quick 20-minute phone conversation so that I can learn more about your needs and provide a recommendation.

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Where Do You Need More Clarity?

ClarityIn my recent post, Three Ways to Gain More Clarity, I shared some of the easiest ways to improve the level of clarity in your life and in your work.  One reader asked:  How do you know where you need more clarity?  Wow!  What a great question!

As a speaker and a coach, whenever I discuss clarity, I encourage my audience to ask themselves where more clarity is needed.  And I have a few suggestions on where to start.  One of the simplest is this:

What do you want?  It’s surprising how powerful this simple question can be.  Many of us, especially women, spend so much of our time, energy and attention on helping other people get what they want, that we forget to ask ourselves.  In fact, when I ask clients this question, they are usually stumped for a moment or two.  And often, they can more easily say what they don’t want and we have to work backwards from there.  This works very well, by the way.

Why do you want it?  Once you know what, it’s helpful to know the reason behind the what, especially if the “what” requires time, effort, attention or money.  What I’ve noticed, over time, is that, without the why, it becomes easier to give up on the what.  So when the what is important, so is the why.  In fact, I recommend that you ask yourself why multiple times, to get to the real baseline motivation that will help you overcome the inevitable challenges on the way to the what.

Here’s an example of an exchange with a business leader who told me she wanted a promotion. I asked her “why is that important to you?” and continued to ask that same question with each answer she gave me:

  • Because I want more money.
  • Because I want to buy more things.
  • Because I want to have more things.
  • Because that means I am successful.
  • Because I want other people to see me as successful.
  • Because my parents and teachers told me I’d never amount to much.

Once this client realized that she was relying on external sources for her sense of self-esteem and self-worth – once she gained clarity — we were able to re-focus. We worked on identifying the intrinsic value and rewards for the work she was doing, the contributions she was making and the ways she was able to help and support others.

She began to understand that those reasons were far more powerful and far more sustainable as a source of motivation.

Clarity is indeed power, as Buckminster Fuller said.  Once you have clarity, you have a better idea of where you want to go and how to get there. Everything falls into place.

Clarity is so important to success that it’s one of the first topics in my High Performance Coaching Program.  If you want to learn more about how to consistently perform at your best, just click here.

Clarity is also one of the main tools I recommend when I speak on “Hope is Not a Strategy, You Need a Plan: Getting to the Next Level Using the 5C’s.” If you are interested in a keynote – or a workshop – on this topic, just send an email to info@ellisbusinessenterprises.com or, for more information, click here to see my Speaker’s Profile.

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The Myth of Multitasking

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Multitasking is a Myth.  If you think you can multitask well, think again.

Doing more than one task at a time, especially complex tasks, actually reduces productivity, efficiency and performance.  In fact, research shows that switching from task to task can cost you up to 40% efficiency.

You are better off focusing on one thing at a time and doing that one thing well.

If you think you’re good at doing several things at once — reading and listening to music, driving and talking on the phone, texting while sitting in a meeting — think again.

Recent neuroscience research reveals that the brain doesn’t really do tasks simultaneously, as we thought — or hoped — it might.  In fact, we just switch tasks quickly. Each time we move from hearing music to reading to talking to texting, there is a stop/ start process that goes on in the brain.  And that start/stop/start process is rough on us: rather than saving time, it costs time (even very small micro seconds), it’s less efficient, we make more mistakes, and over time it can be energy sapping.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed and you think becoming a better multitasker is the answer, guess again.  And join me for my free training on 10 Keys to Help Working Women Regain Control (without guilt).  It will give you some much better tools for managing your work–and your life.

In the meantime, try working on just one thing and giving yourself sufficient time to complete it.  Then, take a quick break, breathe, stretch, move around, drink some water and focus on the next thing.  If you do this throughout the day, you will actually accomplish more.  I was quite surprised at the difference this made for me.

Besides, when you actually pay attention in the meeting, instead of texting and answering emails, you may be surprised at what you learn that will be helpful to your overall career goals!

I’d love to see your comments.  Please share your experience with multitasking.

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