Yesterday was a difficult and emotional day for many Americans. Regardless of whether you got your way or not, the anger and frustration that has marked this very, very long campaign continued. Added to it was a fair degree of shock and disbelief.
I admit, I woke up yesterday more depressed than I’ve ever been. But one thing I have always prided myself on is my resilience. I feel a lot better today. A lot more hopeful, a lot more optimistic, back in balance. How does that happen?
I believe that resilience – that capacity to bounce back – is about the ability to put things in perspective, the sooner the better. Here are some steps that will help:
- Step back. See the situation as an observer instead of a participant. What do you notice about your own behavior and that of others? What is it that you like and dislike about it?
- Take the high road. Force yourself, if necessary, to behave in accordance with the person you most admire – or you when you are your very best self. How would that person respond to the situation?
- Look at the big picture. Ask yourself how the situation will impact you in the long run. How will you feel about it three weeks from now, three months from now, three years from now? If you have trouble with this, try to remember something that troubled you three years ago.
- Find the lesson you need to learn. I believe that “if you’re paying attention, each and every experience you have can contribute to who you become as a person.” * What will this experience contribute to your growth and development?
- See the humor in the situation. There is always humor – look at how much fun the late night pundits had over the past 18 months. Find something that amuses you, makes you smile or laugh out loud. Humor is the best medicine.
When you step back, take the high road, see the big picture, you realize there are lessons to be learned and humor to find in almost any situation, no matter how serious.
Practicing resilience is a great preparation for dealing with all the challenges that life presents to you along the way. We all have them; some of us just bounce back faster than others. Like anything else, the more you practice it, the easier it gets and the better you get.
“Remember that when you improve, everything around you improves.” * Your attitude improves, your results improve, your relationships improve.
* These are quotes from my book, Becoming Deliberate: Changing the Game of Leadership from the Inside Out. Do you have your copy yet? If not, click here to take advantage of free gifts when you purchase. And, by the way, it makes a great gift too for your favorite leader, aspiring leader or anyone just looking to improve their life.