In Building Relationships When It Matters Most, I shared the impact of communication blind spots and the importance of understanding the different styles of communication. In Part 2, we looked at the 5 Key Principles of Connecting that form a basis for building practices for effective communications with others.
Here are 5 Best Practices for Connecting that helped Amy establish better relationships with new colleagues right from the start:
- Finding Common Ground. When you are able to meet someone in a place that is known by and comfortable to her, you are off to a good start. It creates a foundation from which to build. This requires taking an interest in others, asking questions, listening and observing. (If you want some ideas on how to do this, download my Tip Sheet: 10 Questions to Find Common Ground
- Keeping it simple. As an effective communicator, your job is to bring clarity to your message, not complexity. After all, none other than Leonardo Da Vinci taught us that “Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.” Learn how to get to the point and that less is often more.
- Think of the experience you are creating. Are you energetic, engaging and interesting when you communicate? Or, are you serious, boring or unsure of yourself? Think of the impression people will walk away with after your conversation.
- Be inspiring. This starts with being inspired and motivated yourself. Remember that your passion is contagious – and so is the lack of it. You need to decide how you want people to feel after your interaction and build that into your level of energy.
- Always be authentic. Your credibility depends on establishing consistency among the things you say, the things you do and the thoughts, feelings, attitudes and behavior you convey as a role model. This is not always easy, though when you make it your intention and your practice, it will become your habit.
As for Amy, she is off to a great start. And, she realizes that, like all of us, she’s a work in progress. Her commitment to improvement has conveyed to others that she is committed to building strong relationships. It has also propelled her to do better and be better as a communicator and connector.
If you would like to learn more about building better relationships by communicating and connecting more effectively, join me for my upcoming webinar Everyone Communicates, Few Connect.
And, if you have particular challenges that you would like me to address, just comment below or send me an email. I love to hear from my readers!
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